isn’t it too obvious? yes, you may have guessed it right! the word is ‘marriage’.
let’s see what’s the definition of marriage. according to Oxford dictionary, marriage means the formal union of a man and a woman, by which they become husband and wife. but how do I define marriage? simple. a bond by law.
me and the boys managed to catch a movie, date night, on a mid weekday nite. it’s a very funny movie about a married couple trying to spice up their relationship. it definitely does make me laugh my heart out but no doubt it does have a sense of reality in the storyline. quarter way through the movie while it was showing the ugly side of a marriage (you know… divorces, mundane routines, stupid arguments and so on so forth), Kent purposely teased Hoe (who is actually 2 seats away) that this is what he is going to be expecting soon. a married life, a boring life. I do not agree with that totally as I still do believe that there are still happy marriages around the world. however I did participated, sort of teasing Hoe too. I think he might be slightly offended and he challenged me with a question, 'don’t I want to get married?'. I can tell you for now, I surely do not want to get married (at least not in the near future). but I never answer his question as I felt nothing is certain in this world. maybe if one day I am so blindly in love and I’m willing to give more than what I receive, I might just say ‘yes, I do’ to marriage.
just today, I was hanging out with the gals over long lunch break and as usual catching up and bitching about life. they both told me a very shocking news. both their fathers are having affairs. one with a widow of two adult children. another one with a young malay lady and just recently gave birth to a baby girl. when I heard this news, I was speechless… I was in real shock. I was naïve enough to think that this will only happen in drama or someone’s cousin’s friend’s father, someone who doesn’t exist in my life. I am sorry that I didn’t say anything that could calm you both down. I can see the disappointment, the anger, the sad, the ache, the gave-up spirit in both your eyes and I seriously do feel your pain. I really do but I just don’t know what to say except I feel really sorry for what has happened and sorry for not being by both of you when these ugly situations happened (now, I have even more reasons for hating my last few months attachment).
if you are my blog follower, I’m sure you have read something about my godbro did something shameful that hurts all his loved ones around him. yes, I am ashamed to say it out loud that he had an affair. an affair with another girl out there. I really couldn’t understand what’s on his mind. his wife is still one super hot mama but maybe just not as crazily outgoing as she used to be anymore (I couldn’t blame her for that as she’s a mother to a 3-year-old son). and yet, he just couldn’t be contented with what he has and did something disgraceful that almost break his family. I salute his wife for taking the pain and giving him the second chance and I have definitely change my perception towards my once-dearly-respected godbro. I hope the choice of them moving back to Ipoh to try mending the marriage will turn out good. I certainly do not wish they will be a part of the divorce statistics.
now, you tell me what is marriage? if you say marriage is the prove of how much you love each other, then tell me how do you measure it? I always believe that as long as you love each other, as long as you are committed to each other, as long as you know each other’s needs, as long as you both have the same life aspirations, you don’t need a marriage to prove it. as I mentioned, a bond by law that both has to obey or face the penalty if fail to oblige. after all, you don’t have to prove to anyone in the world but yourself how much you love him or her. I would love to be in love, I would love to be loved but certainly marriage is not the answer to my love. growing up in a typical family that has arguments over financial stuff and petty stuff, it does much or less leads me to not believing in marriage. don’t get me wrong, I do love my family very much although it has flaws and I know it’s a part and parcel of how a family grows fonder and stronger. just that I choose not to live my life or love someone like how most people are expected to do. I want to live my live my kind of way, love someone my own unique way.
let love keep the world revolving :)